Something I’ve had a hard time accepting is that some people are just extremely conceited. Obsessive behavior is not a sign you matter to someone else. especially when the person doesn’t know you’re aware of their actions; it’s not flattery. Even as I write this, I’m aware someone will see this and think it’s about them. Ok I’ll say this again,
I’m aware of your actions but I don’t know what they mean.
You’ve got to teach yourself that some people will always be selfish. And what you’ve got to do is avoid these toxic people. Because how you feel should never be a gain for someone else’s ego.